I don’t really know how to start this, or how to say it. I won’t go into detail. I just have a couple of things to say.
On the 23rd February, someone told me I wasn’t dealing with my past in the right way and implied that I was lying about what had happened. They told me that I wouldn’t be doing certain things or be on certain apps if what I told them was actually true. This is a blog post to that particular person and anyone else who thinks that it is okay to speak to people that way.
Let me just start by saying no one has any right to comment on the way you choose to deal with your issues. People deal with things in their own way, and you should let them as long as they are not harming themselves or others. Apparently, because I am not letting my issues impact me too much anymore, this means that what happened is a lie. This isn’t true.
I have dealt with my issues through medication and therapy, I have talked through the past enough times to know that my feelings are valid and I can deal with them in any way that I choose. I have accepted my past, however, the fact that the person on this particular night suggested that I wasn’t dealing with it right made me question myself and bring up all my past issues again. I can’t comprehend why someone would say something like this to another person.
I would like to add one more thing as well. In the moment when I confided in that person, I trusted them to keep it a secret. If someone struggling confides in you by telling you something private and asks you NOT to tell anyone, you should keep it to yourself and not go running to your friends to ask their opinions. I get wanting to talk to your friends about stuff, however, it wasn’t your story to tell. I think the worst part about it all is that the person didn’t even realise they’d hurt me or effected me this much.
I have spoken to people about what happened on the 23rd February and each person has been shocked by it. Since my university can’t do anything about it, I figured I would write about it. I also never want what was said to me to happen to anyone else because it is disgusting so I hope this post will help even just a little bit. Thank you if you read this and it would really help if you shared this because I want to get the word out that it is not okay to talk to people like that.